How to cultivate empathy and prevent empathic overload?

Empathy represents one of the most extraordinary and important human abilities: the capacity to understand and share others’ emotions, creating subtle bridges that connect visions, experiences, and life stories. Cultivating empathyEmpathy is a fundamental skill that allows us to connect wit... More is a true skill to train, at any age, starting from childhood, capable of profoundly influencing our overall health, psychological well-being, social relationships, and personal and professional growth. It is essential to learn to cultivate it in a healthy way, without falling into empathic overload or emotional burnoutBurnout is a state of physical, emotional, and mental exhaus... More, which undermine the sense of self and prevent us from providing effective help to others.

The neurological roots of empathy

Neuroscientific research has revealed that empathy does not reside in a single brain area, but emerges from the orchestration of several neural networks. Similarly to how empathy creates an emotional connection bridge between people, at the neurobiological level empathy arises thanks to the coordinated activity of neural networks.

In particular, the development of empathy involves mirror neuronsMirror neurons represent one of the most important discoveri... More, discovered in the 1990s by Giacomo Rizzolatti’s team. Mirror neurons represent the very biological foundation of empathy and our ability to “mirror” the actions and emotions of others. These neurons activate both when we perform an action and when we observe someone else performing it, creating an internal simulation of the other person’s experience.

NeuroimagingNeuroimaging is a scientific discipline of great importance ... More techniques show that empathic processes involve the activation of different brain areas, related to three main components of empathy:

• Emotional sharing, which involves the anterior insula and anterior cingulate cortex, allowing us to literally “feel” others’ emotions
• Mentalization, which includes the medial prefrontal cortexThe prefrontal cortex plays a fundamental role in numerous p... More and superior temporal sulcus, responsible for understanding mental states
• Emotional self-regulation, guided by the prefrontal cortex, which modulates our empathic responses.

The psychological dimensions of empathy

The very first dimension of empathy is affective, which includes the automatic emotional response to perceived emotions in others. This can be considered the most primitive form of empathy, observable even in newborns, who often cry in response to other babies’ cries.

From a cognitive perspective, empathy represents the ability to intellectually understand others’ points of view: a particular expression of theory of mind, which allows us to anticipate others’ thoughts and reactions. This dimension gradually develops during childhood and reaches full maturation in adolescence. From this dimension arises the motivationMotivation: a scientific perspective Motivation is a fundame... More to help and the sense of social responsibility towards others’ well-being, representing the most mature and constructive aspect of the empathic experience.

The benefits of empathy for overall health

Scientific research has documented numerous benefits of empathy for psycho-physical well-being. People with higher empathic abilities show lower levels of chronic stressWhat is stress? From a clinical perspective, stress is a phy... More, depressionDepression is a disorder characterized by persistent sadness... More, and burnout, better emotional regulation, and more satisfying interpersonal relationships. By fostering the creation of deep and lasting social bonds, empathy is a key factor in counteracting loneliness.

From a neurobiological perspective, empathic behaviors stimulate the release of oxytocinOxytocin is a hormone produced in the brain, specifically in... More, often called the “love hormone,” which reduces activation of the hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal axis, the body’s stress response system. This mechanism explains why empathic interactions generate feelings of calm and well-being.

What is empathic overload

While empathy is a fundamental element of personal and social well-being, there is a risk of empathic overload, which can occur when we excessively absorb others’ emotions, leading to emotional burnout, anxietyAnxiety is an emotional response characterized by feelings o... More, or depression. This phenomenon is common among helping professionals, such as doctors, psychologists, and social workers. Identification with others’ suffering can become so intense that, paradoxically, it can hinder our ability to provide effective help.

For this reason, it is important to remember that healthy empathy translates into the right proximity to another person, not excessive, maintaining a space of distinction between what I am/feel and what the other person is/feels. The proper balance of closeness and distance allows emotional engagement while preserving personal equilibrium and clear perspective, essential to truly offer concrete help. Metaphorically, empathy can be seen as the right distance from a painting, neither too close nor too far, to observe it clearly and appreciate its details.

To prevent empathic distress, essential tools include self-compassion, self-awarenessIl termine autoconsapevolezza si riferisce primariamente all... More, and emotional regulation, which help us modulate the precious skill of empathy for our own and shared benefit. Mindfulness practice also proves particularly effective, helping us recognize our emotional boundaries and maintain compassionate presence without losing the sense of self.

5 practical exercises to train healthy empathy

We can train healthy empathy in many ways, on a daily basis. For example, we can try to:

• Enhance active listening, not immediately planning a response, but paying attention to the interlocutor’s nonverbal and paraverbal signals, such as facial expressions, posture, and tone of voice, asking questions to deepen understanding, while also listening to our own emotions;
• Keep an empathy journal, noting any misunderstandings experienced during the day, trying to write down the other person’s point of view and possible motivations, also relating them to our own;
• Read different perspectives, such as novels, biographies, or articles by people with very different experiences and opinions from our own, to try to understand their viewpoint;
• Practice Loving Kindness Meditation, directing benevolent thoughts, love, and happinessHappiness represents an emotional state characterized by pos... More toward oneself, others, and all living beings;
• Practice mindfulness, training ourselves to observe our emotional states without being absorbed by them, reducing mental clutter and cultivating a “sacred space” of presence and loving-kindness, primarily for ourselves.

Empathy and emotional literacy

In an era marked by increasing polarization, loneliness, and social isolation, developing empathic abilities is an essential contribution to building a more understanding, aware, cohesive, fair, and interconnected society. Empathy, cultivated wisely and in balance, becomes a valuable resource for individual well-being and global healthWhat is the definition of health proposed by the WHO in 1948... More, transforming the way we understand and embrace not only others but also ourselves. It is especially important to cultivate empathy and invest in emotional literacy from childhood, in school classrooms, to raise tomorrow’s adults with respect, understanding, and mutual appreciation.

The commitment of Fondazione Patrizio Paoletti

To help combat emotional illiteracy and prevent alexithymia, Fondazione Patrizio Paoletti invests in dissemination, awareness, and self-education on healthy lifestyles and inner skills through its web portal for global health.

The Emotions Collection

Among the freely accessible online content is also a series dedicated to emotions throughout life, including EduKits and video lessons, to learn about the emotions of children, adolescents, adults, and the elderly. An emotional intelligence glossary, constantly updated, contributes to self-education and empathic skills training, starting from understanding what emotions are from neurobiological, evolutionary, psychological, cognitive, and social perspectives.

Local projects

In parallel, Fondazione Patrizio Paoletti contributes to empathy education within the enriched educational planning at AIS Assisi International School, as well as in projects in Italian high schools such as Prefigurare il Futuro, aimed at training adolescents’ inner resources, including empathy.

Training empathy means learningIl termine apprendimento - con i sinonimi imparare, assimila... More the alphabet of the heart and the language of emotions, central to communication and psychosocial well-being“Health is not a feeling, but a being there, a being in th... More. It means remembering and honoring our social nature, which has found collaboration, emotional connection, and interconnection as keys to evolutionary success and shared well-being, the main path to personal and community growth and fulfillment.